New Year, Know You
No, the headline is not a typo. Let me explain.
I love the new year. It's so exciting! A fresh start with 365 days to fill with awesomeness. I always get super focused on developing targets or goals for the new year. In the past, those targets were often about weight loss or big changes to my lifestyle.
Guess what? I almost always failed. I know, shocking.
In 2018, I'm taking a slightly different approach. Instead of the whole "New Year, New You" way of planning, I'm going to go with "New Year, Know You."
Over the years I feel like I've gotten so trapped in determining who I want to be, that I completely disregard who I already am. I want to be skinny, or fit, or a gluten-free vegan, or a runner (just kidding, running is only for when you're being chased ... by bears). I always want to be something different, because I've been trained to think that I should always strive to be better than I am right now.
The problem with always being in the future, always looking at the green grass on the other side of the fence, is that you never are able to be in the present. You're never inside the you that you are, right now. And, the present, this body, is all we know we have for sure. We don't know if we'll make it to the end of this week, let alone the end of 2018.
Targets in 2018 for me are focused on diving deeper into the things I love, that are my strengths and make me feel awesome — like writing, teaching and doing more yoga, and spending more time in Hawai'i. These targets are a little like the yoga equivalent of finding your edge in a pose, and marinating there.
With a "New Year, Know You" approach, there's no pressure to be someone you're not, only to be who you already are!
I'm starting by making a list of all the things I am, right now, and picking a few things to dive deeper into. For example, besides yoga, I'm a committed reader, into playing "The Sims" on my computer, love spending time with friends, a total news junky, and way into sugar. I'm all of these things, but this year I'm going to focus more on spending time with friends and reading. I'll be more intentional about planning dinners and get-togethers with people I love, and I'll up my goal for number-of-books-read this year.
Sure, some of the things I'm not focusing on will probably be edged out by things I am focusing on, but life is change. The two things I selected for more attention in 2018 serve me better than the other things on that list. They increase my love o' meter and expand my mind. Playing "The Sims" really just gives me tension headaches and a God complex, neither of which serve me.
So how about it? Ready to take on a "New Year, Know You" approach to resolutions? It's easy. Make your "you" list, and start figuring how you can amplify those things that serve you best in 2018.
Happy New Year to all! And, here's to more Santosha in 2018!